(going to veer off the education of our children topic tonight, wanted to share a little on trust.)
Trust is a very hard thing for anyone who has been abused---for that matter anyone who has ever been hurt by anyone. The one thing that I have learned over all these years of abuse and surviving, finding me, and forgiving......is that I could not trust until I forgave. My heart was in a place to be able to trust anyone or anyting -- until I forgave him for him. As in the quote above in no way do I trust him, want him back in my life, or to communicate in any way with him....forgiveness is for my release and my ability to move on.
I have mentioned in other posts that the stronghold on my life was like a noose around my neck. Realizing that to be free of the noose of bitternes and blame I would have to forgive---the memories are tough, but they no longer have any power over me or my life. The time to trust was now -- and I needed the ability to have that happen in my life. If your struggling still with hate and pain and bitterness and blame.....I will be praying that God will move and shake your heart and soul so that you can move on and have an amazing life. He meant the most for you in your life.
I also must say that the forgiveness that I have now, wasn't at all me, it was totally and completely God working in my life and in my heart. My biological father will one day have to answer to his actions, but for now here on earth...I know this to be true....Our God is a big God--bigger than my worries, pain, bitterness, or fears. I turned over everything to God and knew God would handle the justice for me.
Luke 6:37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven."
An excerpt from Beth Moore's book Breaking Free:
"Forgiving my perpetrator didn’t mean suddenly shrugging my shoulders, muttering, “OK, I forgive,” and going on as if those things didn’t happen. They did happen. And they took a terrible toll on my life. Forgiveness involved my handing over
to God the responsibility for justice. The longer I held on to it, the more bondage strangled the life out of me. God saw every bit of it, and He can far better represent me and uphold my cause. Forgiveness meant my deferring the
cause to Christ and deciding to be free from the ongoing burden of bitterness and blame. ~" p. 112
Another line out of Beth's book: “memories are still painful to me at times, but they no longer have power over me” (p. 112).
Love you all, praying for lives to be changed.