When we are passionate - emotions can get the better of us. We can be passionate about a person we love and/or care about, our children, our family, our friends, work, school, or just life in general. What we do with those emotions, though is completely and utterly up to us.
I will be honest this isn't an easy thing for me. Emotions come and go about all types of topics...and making a concious decision on which emotion wave I am going to ride is tough. There are times I am overwhelmed with gladness -- those are pretty easy times to ride, but there are times when I am overcome with sadness or worry or heartache. Those are the times I need to do better at making a concious decision of what emotional wave I want to ride.
People that you love and care about - can easily draw out in you many emotions, but how they impact you - is totally your decision and we own how we allow those emotions to impact us.
That of course is easier said than done. So how do we get there, how do we decide what we allow to impact us versus what we keep out of heads and our hearts? Good question, I am sure there is some doctoral thesis written up on how to not allow your emotions to get the better of you.
What I have found is I have to first acknowledge the emotion that I am experieincing and then I ask myself if what this is about is going to impact me in 10 minutes? 10 days? 10 years? If the answer is no to all of the above, I have to release that emotion from my head. And yes this too is easier said than done. The emotion of fear for instance -- it might be done with and over with and rationally we know that there is no longer anything to fear, but the emotion is still real and alive in our heads.
How about the emotion of love? You can tell your head that you can't feel that emotion, but your heart has other ideas. When it comes to your children, no matter what they have done - your head might say you need to walk away, but no matter what your heart won't allow you to do that. Loving someone at one time, but now having moved on - your head knows your doing the right thing, but does that stop your heart from feeling the emotion of love towards that person.
What about your abuser, the teacher that told you-you would amount to nothing, the boss that belittled you in front of a crowd, the friend that took advantage of you, the person that never tells you that they care or that you are loved -- all of these emotions are real -- they are alive, but won't help you get through your days -- they will actually impact your ability to love, to care, to work, to be productive in your future.
Select the wave that you want to ride, pick the waves that are going to help take you to the top and make you a better person and even more so impacting those around you in a good and positive way.
This thing called life is by no means easy -- trust me....but with tools and others sharing their experiences -- we can make it through. Thank you to all of you who have emailed -- I have learned so much from each and every one of you!
We are in this together!
Praying for lives to be changed