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Reality Bites

10/24/2016

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Most don't want to hear about child abuse.  Its hard.  The topic is hard, the reality words of the abuse are hard. Its hard.  But it is reality.  Reality can bite.  

I find myself stating a disclaimer before I share with people.  I am constantly scanning the horizon trying to be ahead of what someone might think or how they will take the reality of the abuse we endured.  I find myself prepping people, asking if they are ready to hear the real story, or do they want the shortened-easy to hear version.

I am constantly trying to protect those around me - not just the friends and family that are close to me, but to people that aren't even in my close circle.  The realities are hard.  

I let this sink in the past couple of weeks as I have told the stories with disclaimers over and over. During this sinking in time, I have decided that I can not control how anyone else takes the story, the words, the realities of child abuse - sexual, emotional, physical.  I have no control over others emotions or their ability to hear the truths that surround this story.

I will no longer let the story, the memories or the sharing of the events - to cause me to second guess discussing or sharing.  This is my truth, my reality...I can only hope that sharing this story would impact someone, somewhere...even if only one.

Being able to say 'I was raped by my father", "My biological father forced me to perform oral sex on him", "My biological father performed intercourse for the first time at a very young age," these statements are real, they are reality and they need to be spoken.  

Society makes these story somewhat taboo and we are getting better - but we have a long way to go.  The reality is - these stories happen daily.  Kids are being raped by people that are suppose to protect, them, love them and help them grow into successful adults.

This is the reality - a US Army Officer, Don, molested and raped his children - for most of their childhood years.  He was manipulative, calculated and violent. 

​Reality bites. #bethechange
6 Comments
Leslie
10/25/2016 06:29:08 am

Thank you for sharing :) you are a truly amazing woman! I felt your words to my core.

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Serena ( Carolyne)
10/25/2016 06:37:42 am

Thank you for sharing!

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Cecibel Contreras link
10/25/2016 08:57:43 am

Powerful words that need to be spoken. I really admire your openness and your determination to speak out. Twenty one years ago, I started my healing journey and this organization by simply sharing my story. I invite you to be an editor for our organization. The world needs fierce advocates like you. Stay strong my fellow survivor/warrior.

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Kim Coleman link
10/25/2016 06:45:03 pm

Truer words were never spoken. Thank you for telling

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Sally Gecks link
10/26/2016 04:16:19 am

I am very touched by your story! I had a brother who sexed with me from just a few months of my life through age 5. My other brother tortured and strangled me to the point of unconsciousness. He would then bring me to consciousness and do it again. He beat me to the point that I vomited blood. I recently told him off. It felt as if a 1,000-ton weight had been lifted from me! I have been through decades of therapy. I now am the most peaceful and joyous that I have ever been in my life. I never remember feeling like this - ever! thank you so much for sharing a part of your story! God bless you!

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Lola Redpath
10/26/2016 07:42:00 am

Your openness and strength is so inspiring! I too REFUSE to be silenced anymore!

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