It took me years to quit looking over my shoulder wondering if my abuser was following me or stalking me. It was tough, it was so hard to realize that I am a grown woman now and he isn't going to hurt me anymore.....bitterness/anger gives your perpetrator the ability to continue to control you. As long as you hold on to resentment, pain, fear, anxiety---they are in control. Even if you weren't sexually abused or emotionally abused or physically abused--this also applies to pain from being pushed by your parents, eating disordere, girl friend / boy frien betrayal....take the control out of their hands and put into yours. Read this:
What is forgiveness? Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
What is forgiveness? Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
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